Wednesday, 14 June 2017


“Narcissists want to be the centre of attention. They will boast, brag and tell exaggerated stories
about themselves to make out that they are brilliant. They will often mix lies with truths or
half-truths which may make it difficult to catch them out.”

Engaging in a conversation with a narcissist can leave someone feeling like banging their head
against a brick wall. This may sound like an exaggeration; but, in truth, a brick wall may possess
the same levels of empathy, understanding, and validation that a narcissist does. Why?
Because these people couldn’t care less about what you’re saying; no matter the logic or
meaningfulness behind your intended dialogue.

Conversing with a narcissist can be described in four ways . . .
Confusing, Dizzying, Infuriating and Meaningless.

As for the effects of such conversations, narcissistic people possess the innate “gift” of shifting
any sense of their own insecurity and unworthiness to anyone who will listen. Apparently, the
oft-felt repercussions of conversing with a narcissist leave the victim (and victims, they are) feeling
far worse off than having become involved in a conversation with such a character in the first place.

Another “talent” of narcissists is evoking a sense of blame, doubt, and uncertainty – all primary
objectives of such a deluded, manipulative individual.

Make no mistake; narcissists know exactly what they’re doing. Not only are they privy to their
ambitions, but narcissists also experience an elevated sense of superiority and invincibility for
having duped someone else.

One underlying trait of almost all narcissists is the need to be at the centre of attention.
The psychological term for this insatiable necessity is “narcissistic supply,” or the need for
continual reaffirmation of self-perceived value. In this article, we narrow the focus to the

There are more than a few tell-tale signs of narcissism from a conversational perspective.
In particular, some commonly exhibited behaviours or narcissists that illustrate their irrational
desires to be at the centre of attention.

Here are five behaviours that narcissists exhibit 
to become the centre of attention:
1. Reverse Projection
Before knowing that we’re in the company of a narcissist, we’ll relate to the person as if they’re 
rational human beings.  As we don’t purposely deceive or manipulate people, we innately trust 
that others will reciprocate such qualities. However, when this trust is violated, we’ll often feel 
confused, hurt and – in a way – responsible for the narcissist’s behaviour. The horrible thing is 
that this is exactly what narcissistic people want. Without diligent caution, a narcissist can 
quickly “twist the conversation,” making you take on the burden of guilt. Meanwhile, the 
narcissist subtly reverses reality of the situation and takes on the role of an innocent victim. 
In other words, they reverse roles.

2. Incessant blaming

Narcissists will intently switch sensitive topics (e.g., work responsibilities) to divert your attention. 
They do so to put you in a defensive position, regardless of merit behind such tactics. They’ll 
interrogate, focusing on any and all real or perceived faults.

In turn, you’ll rightly defend yourself. Meanwhile, the narcissist will continue to hammer away at 
their inconceivable notion about you “being in the wrong.” Concurrently, they’ll refuse any 
accountability for their behaviour and leave you in a resistive state. All the while, they’ll justify 
their “blame game” by pointing their fingers at you for having created any drama or problems in 
the relationship

3. Shock and awe

When a narcissist apparently displays anger or rage, it is their intention to bully you into 
submission. This is an enigma, as narcissists typically don’t exhibit such vocal or physical 

The intent here is to confuse and intimidate their victim. Rational people, especially those not 
usually accustomed to such outbursts, may become confused and intimidated. As a result, the 
victim may let down their defences and become susceptible to suggestion.
A weakened state is what the narcissist wants, as it leaves you vulnerable to their unquenchable 
need for control and dominance.

4. Playing the victim

Deceitful people love playing the victim, and narcissists certainly fall under this category. 
Narcissists accomplish this by garnering undeserving pity. The tragedy is that this manipulative 
tactic is executed at the expense of another – a person who is often the deserved recipient of good 
will from others.

Though narcissists are an emotionally-neutral group, they acutely understand the power of human 
empathy. This knowledge is used to counter any real or perceived “threat” to their self-glossed 
superior standing. In the event that they hurt someone, they’ll take on a defence position 
this often involves the emotional manipulation those close to you.

 5. Interrupting

Narcissists have an insatiable desire to be the centre of attention at all times. 
When the topic at hand does not involve them, they’ll quickly interrupt the dialogue and attempt 
to refocus the conversation back to themselves. If someone vehemently interjects, attempting to 
redirect the conversation, they’re quickly neutralised by the narcissist and rendered to silence.

This is a narcissist’s optimal result. Should such a malignant attempt fail, the individual will 
immediately be placed on the narcissist’s “hit list” – a perceived threat to be dealt with according 
to the narcissist’s distorted view on what’s truly important…them and them only.

Not my words although I did a tiny edit in a few places for readability purposes


Sunday, 11 June 2017


I'm not going back to bed
You are stuck in my head
Your sweet beautiful body
As you made love with me

Took me in and held me tight
Cuddled all through the night
To wake up still together
In bed, body and soul

Only to start all over again

I am still fucking terrified
But you take me to a place
Of Calm, Peace and Serenity
A place I want to be, & stay

Because you are beautiful to me
It makes me beautiful with you
It makes us beautiful together
Like teenagers all over again

All I am

What I give you, is all I am
From you, nothing is hidden
I laid myself bare for you
I took the risk for pain

Every nook and cranny is open
Come on in, dig deep and explore
Every thought and emotion
All up for your scrutiny

Raw as that can be for me
I do not shirk when you come
I want you there, deep inside
It's where you belong

For you to see the truth
You need to be in there
Where it is all exposed to you
Then maybe you will know

The pain of my past, a scar so vivid
Offered up like a sacrificial lamb
I know it's not easy to understand
So difficult to comprehend fully

I want you to feel the things I do
The deep heartfelt love for you
My soul abides here awaiting yours
To be joined by yours in my secret place

What I give you is all I am
From you, nothing is hidden
I laid myself bare for you

I took the risk for Love and Joy

Wednesday, 24 May 2017

Do I worry

Do I worry, of course, Worry I do I have a beautiful female friend She cares for me She kisses me She hugs me tight
I see her emotion When I look in her eyes She makes me smile She makes me laugh
She makes me cry (Good tears) I know she will give to me Everything she is / has/ And in return . . . .
She has a man who isn't truly free Unable to give her all he has A man who has been submissive For so many years now
It is almost like a habit Breaking free is hard on me And harder for her to wait A man whose heart is guarded
Hidden from the pain But willing to step out Into the sunshine of feeling again Like a timid mouse
Babysteps all the time So easy to retreat again Full of fear Fear of the pain and hurt
Fear of rejection Fear of driving her away So much unknown fear
Needing to be dispelled So do I worry, please understand, I do worry

Saturday, 1 April 2017

Special and Funny

Special and Funny

It started out with a ten minute bus journey
Taking an Hour and terminating suddenly !
Half a mile short of where we weren't meeting
She had misheard which number bus I was on !

When we we finally met waving at each other
From opposite ends of the road under the railway
So began the cliched slow motion movie thing
Running towards each other, at least it felt that way

Finally hand in hand and hello kisses and hugs
We went in search of a cosy local pub to chat
We found one, it was closed and boarded up
So we bought some vino and went back to hers !

We sat and chatted and it became more than obvious
Where the night was headed as we sat on her bed
Unsure of how to start the process of our first night
I challenged her to play a game of strip toss the coin

It was kinda dark, I didn't have my glasses on
I had to rely on her for heads or tails being up !
Despite the chance to cheat, she lost first go !
I  looked at her and thought perhaps her shirt,

Lets not be too hasty as it was just the first toss
With such aplomb and a mischievous grin . . .
She took off a sock ! we collapsed with laughter
Recovering, the coin tossed into the air once more

Missed by my fumbling hand in the darkness
It tumbled to the floor where we scrabbled around
I lost this time, and removed a sock with a flourish
Once more collapsing in gales of laughter to the bed

On we pressed with our frivolous game, with smiles
On our faces and laughter on our lips, and of course wine
Now despite the dark and the lack of glasses for me
She lost rapidly, I was still in jeans and boxers

But there she stood gloriously naked and unashamed
Her beauty breathtaking, and me just awestruck
The room lost all it's air and my heart paused I swear
She smiled at me with that cheeky grin once more

She then decided to abandon any pretense for the game
And set about removing the remaining clothes I had
As she knelt down to remove my boxers I held my breath
Oh so gently and tenderly she placed me in her mouth

And thus began a special night of magic and sometimes fun
Love 'N' Laughter has long been my motto for everyone's life
Little did I know that this special night would bring lots
From the first nekkid moment to waking up the next morning

And as we draw a veil of privacy
Over the rest of the proceedings
Ah fukkitt no we won't
We all know what happened

Suck, Lick, Blow, Nibble, Chew, Fuck, Finger, Tongue.
Drowned in cum, mine and hers, face fucked, her and me,
Upside down, over under sideways down, 69, 96, Doggie,
Every single moment of gentle tender rampant passion

Then curled up together holding each other tight
As we slept, and wrapped ourselves entwined
Waking in the morn still tangled up in each others limbs
Eyes opening to each others eyes full of warmth

So yeah it was wonderful, very funny, sexy as all get out,
Horny, tender, beautiful, and many other words of joy
At times magical as we meshed in motion and thought,
Sweet and touching full of compassion and caring

And then she whacked me with the teddy bear !

It was a very special and funny night

Wednesday, 29 March 2017

It's just a Flat Cap

It's just a Flat Cap

It's just a flat cap
Seen on stages worldwide
worn with aplomb and pride
Rakishly clamped down
Atop a head of aging curls

It's just a flat cap
Worn by my Grandad
Saw action through two wars
Still on his head at the end
Went with him to the grave

It's just a flat cap
Worn by the conductor
On the southbound train
Sweat stains in the band
Smuts stuck to the peak

It's just a flat cap
Worn for such comic effect
Peak aimed skywards
Cockeyed angle on his head
Mr Grimsdale, yelled out loud

It's just a flat cap
But more than that
It's a symbol of hard graft
A metaphor for common man
A hat worn on all occasions

It's just a flat cap
I said as I left it on my head
But we're having  Sex she said !
I reached for her and drew her close
OK she sighed, "You can leave your Cap on"

It's just a flat cap
Worn all day to keep me warm
But no matter where I go
At the end of the working day
Home is where I lay my Cap

It's just a flat cap
But famously on a workshy head
Provided much needed comedy
Lightening the days toils and woe
Trying all the time to hoodwink Flo

It's just a flat cap
With a peak and not a point
Nicely rounded to fit upon Oblio's head
But perfectly weighted too for flight
Allowing Oblio to win at Triangle Toss

It's just a flat cap
Hiding multi coloured hair
As I get older it might be more fair
If used it for another purpose too
In front of my ugly mug might be an idea

It's just a flat cap
It's something else too
If you're guilty of something bad
You insulted me, or maligned me
This is for you, try it on,  if the Cap fits, wear it

Monday, 27 March 2017

Small Minds

Small Minds

Small places and towns where we grow
Breed Small minds, don't you know

Making big accusations, unfounded
Peeing on wall in town unwarranted

A big troop of Monkeys in a camp
And the Priests wife ! Such a tramp

Having an orgy with you, towns ugliest
But for one oh so small point, the funniest

This fantasy can be believed like a proud boast
The rumour spread like butter on warm toast

Till you can no longer go outside without ridicule
People stare at the madman / woman, oh so cruel

Fucking Monkeys and the wife of the Priest
Whilst peeing against a wall like a kind of beast 

No small feat this, considering everything fact
The physical limitations involved in this act

No matter what kind of shameless tramp
Is married to the Priest dressed like a vamp

But here's the kicker to this oh so fantastic tale
To put an end to all that gnashing and that wail

Stop believing crap and thinking like a clown
There are no fucking monkeys in this town !

Inspired by a joke between my friend Monica Sorensen and I